Kintsugi is a Japanese legend that tells the story of a mighty shogun warrior who broke his favourite tea bowel and sent it away for repair. When he received it back, the bowl was held together by unsightly metal staples. Although he could still use it, he was very disappointed.

Still hoping to restore his beloved bowl to its former beauty, he asked a craftsman to find a more elegant solution.

The craftsman wanted to try a new technique, something that would add to the beauty of the bowl as well as repair it. So, he mended every crack in the bowl with a lacquer resin mixed with gold. When the tea bowl was returned to the shogun, there were streaks of gold running through it, telling its story, and – the warrior thought – adding to its value and beauty.

This method of repair became known as Kintsugi.

Kintsugi, roughly translates to “golden Joinery”

The Japanese philosophy is that the value of an object is not in its beauty, but in its imperfections, and that these imperfections are something to celebrate, not hide.


You are probably thinking, Thats a nice story, but what does it have to do with me?

Imagine that your life is a ceramic bowl. When good things happen, it’s like the bowl is being polished, and when bad things happen, it’s like the bowl is being scratched.

Something like Child Sexual Abuse could create significant cracks. The result may leave you feeling that your bowl has been broken into pieces. You repaired it as best as you could, and, like the metal staples, maybe the ways you coped allowed you to be functional, but not utilizing your full potential.

With Kintsugi, every step you make towards healing is like gluing those pieces back together with gold.

You feel more whole and complete.

Although the trauma in your past cannot be changed, it can be managed in ways where it no longer dominates your life.

You may carry deep wounds that need validation and healing in order for you to move forward. With proper education tools, and support, it’s not only possible but probable that you will be able to live a positive, productive, and empowered life.

As you learn about how the brain responds to trauma of your childhood, you can begin the process of putting the broken pieces back together.