I often hear people assuming and saying that sexual abuse is rare.
Perhaps you should stop for a minute to actually look at the statistics…
1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men have been sexually abused, more often than not by somebody that they know, very often it is someone within their trusted circle.
Those figures are only the ones that have come forward to report it.
Imagine what the real number is?
Shocking isn’t it?
But sadly a reality.
A reality that society doesn’t want to acknowledge. A reality that many would rather Survivors stay silent about. It’s awkward, uncomfortable, embarrassing.
The words are often ugly and disgusting. Of course you don’t want to hear it, of course it’s unpleasant and not part of your world.
But sadly it is part of ours.
We didn’t have choices as you did.
We didn’t receive care, comfort, reassurance and love.
Instead we received hurt, pain, hatred and suffering.
Alone in our world we carried it day after day with no help, no support, no love.
That was our reality and continues to be our reality now.
We can recover, journey on, build a better life for ourselves and settle into your kind of life, but the reality will always be there.
What happened to us we can never change. We can’t claim back our childhoods, those carefree years we should have had.
We want society to stop, and acknowledge that the world we live in, is for some of us a cruel and scary place.
When you go about your day, be mindful of us ‘The Survivors’.
We do exist.
There are a lot of us, in fact, we are a huge team, bigger than you realise.
So I know for sure you will pass a few of us whilst you are going about your daily tasks.
We are silently struggling, quietly working so hard to try and get our life into some sort of order. To understand what happened to us, and take back the power that was stolen from us.
We are slowly trying to change the direction of our life.
Allow us the space and comfort to be acknowledged and recognised.
We deserve that.